**First, a warning: this episode contains sexually explicit content that may not be to everybody’s taste.
This week’s guest is probably the one that has the subtlest and deepest disruption on my own self. It may not be my guest so much as the focus of his work and the topic of our conversation. The topic is sexuality, something that I am not yet that comfortable is discussing in a public forum, but at the same time something I feel is so necessary for me, and all of us, to openly discuss.
It affected me so much that I have wondered since the time of its recording whether this interview is something I want to release. What will people think? How will this reflect on me? Is this aligned with what Subtle Disruptors is all about?
But I know that this is an area I personally need to explore more, and I take my reluctance and uncertainty as indicators that releasing this episode is part of me moving in a positive, if not uncomfortable, direction.
I expect that those reading this post and who listen to this episode will fall onto a continuum of that stretches from feeling very comfortable and integrated with their sexuality, to feeling nervous and triggered even at the mention of the topic. Regardless of where you may fall on this continuum, I hope that through this episode you start to feel even slightly more comfortable with this subject as a topic of conversation.
There are certainly some great podcasts out there that are exploring this in much more detail and openness than I am yet ready to do. The Savage Lovecast and The Hook Up are two that I recommend. And while I think they are ground-breaking in the conversations they are normalising, there is a piece of the puzzle they seem to be missing that this week’s guest makes a focus.
Eyal Matsliah is a human potential coach who has written a book on the female orgasm and has an on-line course on ejaculation control for men. And while people come to him to talk about a particular sexuality issue, they come away from him with a greater integration of all aspects of their life.
I like his philosophy and approach. The idea of the interconnection of all things. I recognise the truth that if there is one area of our life that is dark and dysfunctional it will inevitably impact and constrain many other areas of our life. And in integrating and breathing life into a dark and dysfunctional area, many other aspects of our life are also improved.
I don’t think there an area of our collective lives that is more hidden, shamed, repressed and misdirected than our sexuality. If we could embrace and understand our sexuality, learning how to express and explore it in an enabling, opening and life brining way, what benefit could there be for all of us as we create, connect and love?
I come from a conservative background where sex was compartmentalised and restricted, and I am on a journey of understanding how explore, express and integrate this into and through my life. I am excited and terrified by the things Eyal talks about, but have a hunch that in exploring I can only benefit.
I hope you are challenged just enough by our conversation, and are taken a bit further towards sexual integration.
Here are some links to some of the other things we talked about in this week’s episode:
- 5 Rhythms dancing: Connecting with your body through dance
- Carol Dweck: Growth verses Fixed Mindset
- Napolean Hill: Think and Grow Rich
- Tim Ferris: No booze, no masturbation experiment
- Dave Aspery: The relationship between orgasms and business performance
- Simon Sinek: Start with Why